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be REALL ...

Don't second guess yourself. If you think a peer is in distress, they probably are.

Reach Out

Signs to look out for include:

  • acting differently/out of control

  • withdrawing from friends and activities

  • frequently skipping classes

  • increased use of alcohol or drugs

  • overreacting to stress

  • highly agitated/irritable

  • talking about death (or "wanting out")

  • taking life-threatening risks

Express Concern

"I'm worried about you, you seem stressed."

"You seem down lately and you don't come out of your room much."

"I've noticed you seem to be partying a lot more lately."

Ask Questions

"What's bothering you?"

"How have you been feeling lately?"

"Have you had thoughts about hurting yourself or ending your life?"

"Have you been thinking that things would be easier if you weren't around?"


  • Take what they say seriously
  • Offer emotional support, understanding and patience
  • Let them know they don't have to suffer alone
  • Acknowledge that depression and anxiety are real, common and treatable
  • Hear their pain and avoid judgment


  • Inform them that the Counseling Center if FREE and confidential
  • Offer to accompany them to see a counselor or call the crisis hotline with them




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