How to help a friend
It is impossible to know with certainty what goes on behind closed doors, but there are some telltale signs and symptoms of abuse. If you witness these warning signs of abuse in a friend, family member or co-worker, take them very seriously.
General Warning Signs of Intimate Partner Violence |
Warning Signs of Physical Violence |
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People who are being abused may:
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People who are being physically abused may:
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Warning Signs of Isolation |
The Psychological Warning Signs of Abuse |
People who are being isolated by their abuser may:
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People who are being abused may:
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Speak up if you suspect Intimate Partner Violence
If you suspect that someone you know is being abused, speak up! If you’re hesitating—telling yourself that it’s none of your business, you might be wrong, or the person might not want to talk about it—keep in mind that expressing your concern will let the person know that you care and may even save their life.
Talk to the person in private and let them know that you’re concerned. Point out the things you’ve noticed that make you worried. Tell the person that you’re there, whenever they feel ready to talk. Reassure the person that you’ll keep whatever is said between the two of you, and let them know that you’ll help in any way you can.
Remember, abusers are very good at controlling and manipulating their victims. People who have been emotionally abused or battered are depressed, drained, scared, ashamed and confused. They need help to get out, yet they’ve often been isolated from their family and friends. By picking up on the warning signs and offering support, you can help them escape an abusive situation and begin healing.
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*Adapted from thehotline.org