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When do you have Consent?

....when you are discovering your partner's wants and needs. Make sure these elements are part of your sexual experience.

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Necessary

Sexy

Engagement in the act

Nonviolent

Talking about it

 

Mutual and Enjoyable:  Consent does not come out of coercion or pressure.

Active Participation: The absence of a "no" is still a "no" and does not mean "yes".

Communicated: Consent must never be implied or assumed, even in the context of a relationship. Just because you are in a relationship, it does not mean that you that you always have your partner's consent.

Fully Conscious: Consent cannot be given by someone who is asleep, unconscious, or intoxicated.

Flexible: Either person can say "no" at anytime.

 

That’s right, without permission there should be no contact. Any uninvited and unwanted touching or forced intercourse is considered sexual assault.

 

What means"NO"?

  • You are not my type
  • Please stop
  • Don't touch me
  • I'm not sure if I'm ready
  • Not now
  • I don't know if I want to
  • I think I've had too much to drink
  • I don't have a condom
  • I'm scared

It's not:

'Slow Down'

'Keep trying until I give in'

'Yes, but I' don't want to give in too easily'

Non verbal messages such as lack of eye contact, crossing arms, not responding, or pulling away, can be signs of discomfort, anxiety or fear.  In this case- stop immediately.

If your partner is saying anything like the following, they are saying "NO".

I'm not sure if I'm ready

I don't know if I want to

I think I've had too much to drink

I don't want to get HIV

I'm scared

No should be respected. No means STOP.

Identify a Perpetrator

It’s hard to identify a potential perpetrator, here are some things to watch for include:

  •  Make you feel guilty or say that you’re uptight/prude if you resist their sexual advances.
  •  Ignore your personal space and boundaries.
  •  Do not listen to you.
  •  Do what they want, regardless of what you say or do.
  • Charming but they are often manipulative.
 

Victim of Sexual Assault

If you are sexually assaulted there are a few things you should do:

  • Go to a safe place as soon as you can and have someone you trust stay with you.
  • Don’t take a shower! It is important to consider preserving evidence as proof of the assault, even if you are unsure about pressing charges.
  • Victim Advocates are available to provide support.
 

Report a Sexual Assault

You may report a sexual assault to any one of the following departments on campus:

 

Help a Friend

Support a friend if they tell you they were assaulted.

  • Believe what they are saying. Let them know it was not their fault.
  • Listen when they want to talk.
  • Empower them to report.

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