Letting go is an important task for parents since college life is another step toward independent living for your child. Keep the following in mind as you help your child transition into college life:
- College requires more self-discipline. There is less time spent in classrooms and more time spent studying outside of class. Helping your child develop time management skills is very important.
- Encourage independent decision-making about choice of major, course work, friendships and interests. Young adults need to make their own choices and learn from them.
- Expect identity exploration as young adults are exposed to varied life styles.
- Expect an adjustment to shared living. One of the tasks learned is how to get along with others, problem solve differences and learn to compromise.
- Students who feel pressure to get straight A’s are more stressed and don't enjoy the learning process.
- Help your child set realistic expectations about participation in extracurricular activities such as sports, clubs, drama productions or student government.
- Discuss financial arrangements for college in advance. Review financial aid and student loan options. Discuss whether getting a job is expected and how many hours are realistic.