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How should I come out to my roommate?

There are a few things to consider when you're thinking about coming out to your roommate. If you feel safe around them, let them know that you have something important to talk about and that they should set aside time for the two of you to speak. Once you're together, just let them know how you identify. Explain your identity and allow them to ask questions. The best way to avoid your roommate being awkward or uncomfortable is to educate them. Let them know that just because you identify as XYZ doesn't mean that you're going to be hitting on them or staring at them while they change. If you're not out on campus, ask them to keep it between the two of you until you're ready to come out on a large scale. The main thing to keep in mind when coming out to anyone is to do it on your terms. If you feel uncomfortable or not ready, take time and practice coming out. Think over what you want to say and what you want the outcome to be. Mentors would always be willing to sit with you and help you practice as well.

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