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Dating and Domestic Violence

Dating and domestic violence can be emotional, verbal, physical or psychological.

How You Can Help

If you know someone who is in an abusive relationship, there are some things that you can do to help him or her:

  • Tell them it's not their fault.
  • Tell them they don't deserve it.
  • Let them know you believe them.
  • Don't spread gossip. It could put them in danger.
  • Don't try to make them do anything they don't want to (it won't work unless it's their decision).
  • Tell them that they're not crazy, because they're going to feel that way.
  • Encourage them to build a wide support system — go to a support group or talk to friends and family.
  • Don't blame them for the abuse or their decision to stay; leaving an abusive relationship is hard and can take a long time.
  • See if they need medical attention. They may not realize how badly they're hurt.
  • Connect them with a domestic abuse services agency.


Christine Ann Domestic Abuse Services, Inc.

Winnebago County 
(920) 235-5998

Reach Counseling Services

Winnebago County 
(920) 722-8150

UW Oshkosh Victim Advocate

(920) 424-2061

Harbor House Domestic Abuse Programs, Inc.

Fox Cities 832-1666
Calumet County (920) 849-7819

Sexual Assault Crisis Center

Outagamie County 
(920) 733-8119

by petera68 — last modified Jan 21, 2014 08:16 AM