What is Stalking?
Stalking involves repeated, unwanted attention from someone who feels threatening or uncomfortable. It is a course of conduct, directed at a specific person, that would cause them to experience serious emotional distress or to fear for their safety.
- Over 85% of stalking victims are stalked by someone they know
- 61% of female victims and 44% of male victims of stalking are stalked by a current or former intimate partner
- Persons aged 18-24 years experience the highest rate of stalking
Stalking is serious, often violent, and can escalate over time.
Some things stalkers do:
- Repeatedly call you, including hang-ups
- Follow you and show up wherever you are
- Send unwanted gifts, letters, cards, or e-mails
- Damage your home, car, or other property
- Monitor your phone calls or computer use
- Use technology, like hidden cameras or global positioning systems (GPS), to track where you go
- Drive by or hang out at your home, school, or work
- Threaten to hurt you, your family, friends, or pets
- Find out about you by using public records or online search services, hiring investigators, going through your garbage, or contacting friends, family, neighbors, or co-workers
- Posting information or spreading rumors about you on the Internet, in a public place, or by word of mouth
- Other actions that control, track, or frighten you
A stalker can be someone you know well or not at all. Most have dated or been involved with the people they stalk.
- 2/3 of stalkers pursue their victims at least once per week, many daily, using more than one method
- 78% of stalkers use more than one means of approach
- Weapons are used to harm or threaten victims in 1 out of 5 cases
- Almost 1/3 of stalkers have stalked before
- Intimate partner stalkers frequently approach their targets, and their behaviors escalate quickly
Many victims struggle with how to respond to the stalker. Some victims try to reason with the stalker, try to "let them down easy" or "be nice" in hopes of getting the stalker to stop the behavior. Some victims tell themselves that the behavior "isn't that bad" or other sentiments that minimize the stalking behavior. Other victims may confront or threaten the stalker and/or try to "fight back". These methods rarely work because stalkers are actually encouraged by any contact with the victim, even negative interactions.
Take care of yourself!
What is happening is NOT YOUR FAULT.
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