If you are in an abusive relationship:
- Think of a relatively safe place to go if an argument occurs - avoid rooms with no exits (bathroom), or rooms with weapons (kitchen).
- Think about and make a list of safe people to contact.
- Call your Campus Victim Advocate (920-424-3127) or Christine Ann Domestic Abuse Shelter (920-235-5998) and find out what help is available to you.
- Practice how to get out of your home safely. Identify which doors, windows, elevator, or stairwell would be best.
- Have a packed bag ready and keep it at a relative's or friend's house or at work in the event you need to flee.
- Memorize all important numbers or store them in your phone.
- Establish a "code word or sign" so that family, friends, teachers or co-workers know when to call for help.
- Decide and plan for where you will go if you have to leave home (even if you don't think you will need to leave).
- If you have a protective order, carry it with you at all times. Make extra copies.
- Trust your own judgment and intuition. If a situation is serious, you may choose to give your partner what they want in order to calm them down and temporarily avoid escalation of the abuse. You have the right to protect yourself however you see fit.
- Remember you have the right to live without fear and violence.
If you have left the relationship:
- Change your phone number.
- Screen calls.
- Save and document all contacts, messages, injuries or other incidents involving the abuser.
- Change locks, if the abuser has a key.
- Avoid staying alone.
- Plan how to get away if confronted by an abusive partner.
- If you have to meet your partner, do it in a public place.
- Vary your routine.
- Notify school and work contacts.
The Campus Victim Advocate can discuss your situation with you and help you come up with a personalized safety plan.
A safety plan is a combination of suggestions, plans, and responses created to help victims reduce their risk of harm. It is a tool designed in response to the victim's specific situation that evaluates what the victim is currently experiencing, incorporates the pattern of previous behavior, and examines options that will positively impact the victim's safety.
Call (920) 424-3127 or email firstname.lastname@example.org to set up an appointment.
TRUST YOURSELF AND ASK FOR HELP
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(Christine Anne Center)