If you are in an abusive relationship:
- Think of a relatively safe place to go if an argument occurs - avoid rooms with no exits (bathroom), or rooms with weapons (kitchen).
- Think about and make a list of safe people to contact.
- Call your Campus Victim Advocate (920-424-2061) or Christine Ann Domestic Abuse Shelter (920-235-5998) and find out what help is available to you.
- Keep cash and change with you at all times.
- Memorize all important numbers or store them in your phone.
- Establish a "code word or sign" so that family, friends, teachers or co-workers know when to call for help.
- Think about what you will say to your partner if he/she becomes violent.
- Have a set of clothes for yourself stored at a friend's house or at work in the event you need to flee.
- Keep sets of important documents (savings account records, check books, safety deposit keys, birth certificates, school records, deeds, other legal documents) in a safe place that only you can access.
- Take pictures of physical injuries resulting from the abuse.
- If you have a protective order, carry it with you at all times. Make extra copies.
- Trust your own judgment and intuition. If a situation is serious, you may choose to give your partner what they want in order to calm them down and temporarily avoid escalation of the abuse. You have the right to protect yourself however you see fit.
- Remember you have the right to live without fear and violence.
If you have left the relationship:
- Change your phone number.
- Screen calls.
- Save and document all contacts, messages, injuries or other incidents involving the batterer.
- Change locks, if the batterer has a key.
- Avoid staying alone.
- Plan how to get away if confronted by an abusive partner.
- If you have to meet your partner, do it in a public place.
- Vary your routine.
- Notify school and work contacts.
TRUST YOURSELF AND ASK FOR HELP
Adapted from the University of Virginia Women’s Center Sexual and Domestic Violence Services
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